Memories of Yorkshire - before the blame-gaming injuries

My brother is in so much pain
That all he seems able to do
Is push away a rock called blame
So that it's weight lies on another

Near Ilkley Moor we knew better
Playing on Brimham Rocks
Running between these weather-beaten boulders
We then climbed higher, and got the big view

May my family go beyond pushing boulders
on each other's feet
Well before Dad dies
May we transcend once more
And sit together on the boulders
Enjoying a sometimes bleak yet "grand" and united view.
(That's where well-facilitated dialogue Leeds.)

Blame vs Taking Responsibility for needs

Blame, to me, is "a primitive concept"
- Understandable, of course.
When I hear your blame-gaming
I take it that it is no game to you.
You're feeling upset, I guess
And want some responsibility to be taken?
Me too, only I try to start with acknowledging the pain
And locating the pain that certain actions trigger.
The pain (in our case) doesn't come from the actors
But from the unmet need(s).
Let's start with the needs for care and consideration,
prudence and mourning & see
who owns these needs & what requests they make?



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Paul
#FreeRange #Buddhist
Tel 0780 70 66 202

PS. How do you want to be loved?
PPS. What's my role in that?
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